Imagine having parents who, instead of making you feel safe and happy, make you feel sad and scared. It’s like having a boo-boo that never heals, even when you grow up. Many kids feel this way, feeling lonely and misunderstood.
I know how it feels because I’ve been there too. It’s really hard to understand why the people who should love us the most sometimes hurt us the most.
But guess what? The first step to feeling better is to admit that it’s happening. It takes a lot of courage to say “This isn’t okay,” and start making things better.
In this article, I’ve collected some special sayings that might help you feel understood and less alone. They’re like little hugs for your heart, reminding you that you’re strong and that things can get better.
Quotes About Feeling Hurt
Sometimes, words can hurt just like a scraped knee. And when those hurtful words come from our parents, it can feel even worse. Here are some quotes that might help you understand and express those feelings:
- “Words can be bullets or butterflies. Choose wisely.”
- This means that what we say can either hurt someone or make them feel good. We should always try to use kind words.
- “The tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful with your words.”
- Even though we can’t see it, the way we talk can make someone feel really sad.
- “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
- This is an old saying, but sometimes words can hurt. It’s okay to feel sad if someone says something mean.
- “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou
- This means that even if we forget the exact words someone said, we’ll always remember if they made us feel happy or sad.
- “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” — Plato
- We never know what someone else is going through. So it’s important to always be kind with our words.
- “The wounds from words hurt more than the wounds from swords.”
- This is another way of saying that mean words can hurt more than physical pain.
- “Sadness flies away on the wings of time.” — Jean de La Fontaine
- Even when we feel sad, those feelings won’t last forever.
- “Tears are words that need to be written.” — Paulo Coelho
- Sometimes, crying is a way of expressing how we feel when we can’t find the right words.
- “Where words fail, music speaks.” — Hans Christian Andersen
- If you can’t find the words to say how you feel, try listening to music or drawing a picture.
- “A broken heart is just the growing pains necessary so that you can love more completely when the real thing comes along.” — J.S.B. Morse
- Even though heartbreak is painful, it can help us learn and grow stronger.
- “There is no greater sorrow than to recall in misery the time when we were happy.” — Dante
- Sometimes, remembering happy times can make us feel even sadder when we’re going through a tough time.
- “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” — André Gide
- It’s important to be true to ourselves, even if it means some people won’t like us.
- “The heart was made to be broken.” — Oscar Wilde
- Everyone experiences sadness and heartbreak at some point in their lives.
- “The worst feeling in the world is knowing you’ve been used and lied to.”
- It hurts a lot when someone we trust doesn’t tell us the truth.
- “It hurts when you have someone in your heart that you can’t have in your arms.”
- Missing someone we love can make us feel very sad.
Quotes About Forgiveness
Sometimes, when someone hurts us, it can feel like holding a prickly cactus – it’s painful and we want to hold on to that anger. But forgiveness is like letting go of that cactus.
It doesn’t mean forgetting what happened, but it helps us feel lighter and happier. Here are some quotes that might help you understand forgiveness a little better:
- “Forgiveness is not forgetting. It’s letting go of the hurt.”
- This means that even if we forgive someone, we still remember what they did. But we choose not to let it make us angry anymore.
- “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes
- Sometimes, holding onto anger can feel like we’re trapped in a cage. Forgiveness helps us unlock that cage and be free.
- “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” — Mahatma Gandhi
- It takes a lot of strength and courage to forgive someone who has hurt us.
- “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” — Paul Boese
- Even though we can’t change what happened, forgiveness can help us move forward and have a better future.
- “Forgiveness is the final form of love.” — Reinhold Niebuhr
- Forgiveness is a very powerful way of showing love, even to those who have hurt us.
- “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” — Mahatma Gandhi
- If we keep hurting each other back, it will only lead to more pain for everyone.
- “Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.” — Desmond Tutu
- Forgiveness gives people a chance to start over and do better.
- “The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.” — Hada Bejar
- When we forgive someone, we also feel good about ourselves. It’s like giving a beautiful flower and still enjoying its scent.
- “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
- We can’t fight anger with more anger. Only love and forgiveness can truly heal.
- “To err is human; to forgive, divine.” — Alexander Pope
- Everyone makes mistakes. Forgiving those mistakes is something special.
- “Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” — Oscar Wilde
- Sometimes, forgiving someone can even surprise them and help them change their ways.
- “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
- Forgiveness isn’t something we do just once. It’s a way of thinking and acting all the time.
- “The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” — Thomas Szasz
- Smart people understand that forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. It means learning from what happened.
- “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” — Tony Robbins
- When we forgive, we’re not just helping the other person. We’re also helping ourselves feel better.
- “It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” — Maya Angelou
- Forgiving everyone, including ourselves, is one of the best things we can do for our own happiness.
Quotes About Setting Boundaries
Imagine you have a special treasure box. You wouldn’t want just anyone reaching in and taking your treasures, right? You need to protect it!
Setting boundaries is like building a fence around your treasure box – it keeps the good stuff safe and lets you decide who gets to come close.
Here are some quotes to help you understand why boundaries are so important:
- “No” is a complete sentence.
- This means you don’t always need to explain yourself. It’s okay to simply say “no” if you don’t want to do something.
- “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” — Brené Brown
- Sometimes, saying “no” might make someone else upset. But it’s okay to protect yourself, even if it means someone else isn’t happy.
- “You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” — Tony Gaskins
- If you let people treat you badly, they’ll keep doing it. But if you say “stop,” they’ll learn to respect your boundaries.
- “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.” — Brené Brown
- If we don’t protect our treasure box, we might feel sad and taken advantage of.
- “Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me too.” — Christine Morgan
- Setting boundaries isn’t selfish. It’s about taking care of yourself, just like you’d take care of a pet or a plant.
- “Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.” — Gerard Manley Hopkins
- Boundaries help us stay true to who we are and make our own decisions.
- “Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them from resentment build-up.” — Brené Brown
- Saying “no” can actually help us be kinder in the long run because we won’t feel angry or resentful.
- “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”
- Boundaries help us love others without losing ourselves in the process.
- “You get to decide who has access to your energy.”
- You’re in charge of who you spend time with and how much of yourself you give to others.
- “Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships and self-respect.”
- Boundaries help us build strong and happy friendships and feel good about ourselves.
- “Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.”
- Some people might try to take too much from us. It’s important to set limits to protect ourselves.
- “We need to learn to say ‘no’ to others so we can say ‘yes’ to ourselves.”
- Sometimes, saying “no” to someone else means saying “yes” to what we really want or need.
- “Choose people who choose you.”
- Surround yourself with friends who respect your boundaries and make you feel good.
- “Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to let them go.”
- Sometimes, setting a boundary means creating distance from someone, even if it’s hard.
- “You are not responsible for other people’s feelings.”
- It’s okay if someone gets upset when you set a boundary. You’re not responsible for making them happy all the time.
Quotes About Self-Worth
Sometimes, when people say mean things, it can make us feel like we’re not good enough. But that’s not true! You are amazing, just the way you are. Here are some quotes to remind you how special and loved you are:
- “You are enough, just as you are.”
- You don’t need to change anything about yourself to be loved or valuable.
- “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” — A.A. Milne (Winnie the Pooh)
- You have hidden superpowers inside you, even if you don’t always see them.
- “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” — Oscar Wilde
- There’s only one you in the whole world, and that makes you super special!
- “You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing.”
- Nobody’s perfect! It’s okay to make mistakes; it’s part of learning and growing.
- “Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” — Christian D. Larson
- You have the strength to overcome any challenge that comes your way.
- “You are loved just for being you. Just exactly as you are.” — Mr. Rogers
- You don’t need to do anything special to earn love. You’re loved simply for existing.
- “You are capable of amazing things.”
- You have the potential to do great things in your life. Believe in yourself!
- “Be kind to yourself. You are doing the best you can.”
- It’s important to be gentle with yourself, especially when things are tough.
- “You are worthy of love and respect.”
- Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You deserve to be treated with kindness and care.
- “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”
- If someone doesn’t appreciate you, it’s their loss, not yours.
- “You’re not a drop in the ocean. You’re the entire ocean in a drop.” — Rumi
- You are a whole universe within yourself, full of wonder and possibility.
- “Don’t let anyone ever dull your sparkle.”
- Your unique personality and talents are precious. Don’t let anyone dim your light!
- “You are valuable because you exist. Not because of what you do or what you have done, but simply because you are.” — Max Lucado
- Your worth doesn’t depend on your achievements. You are valuable just by being you.
- “You are the only person on earth who can use your ability.” — Zig Ziglar
- Your special skills and talents are unique to you. Use them to make the world a better place.
- “Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.” — Les Brown
- Just like you love your friends and family even when they make mistakes, you should love yourself too.
Quotes About Healing
Imagine your heart is like a little bird with a broken wing. It needs time, care, and a safe place to rest before it can fly again. Healing from hurt takes time, but it’s possible. Here are some quotes to remind you that you can mend your heart and feel happy again:
- “Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.”
- Just like a doctor helps us when we’re sick, it’s okay to ask for help when our hearts need healing too.
- “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” — Rumi
- Even though we’ve been hurt, those experiences can make us stronger and wiser.
- “Healing is not an overnight process, it is a daily cleansing of pain, it is a daily healing of your life.” — Leon Brown
- Healing doesn’t happen all at once. It’s like taking small steps every day to feel better.
- “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” — Nelson Mandela
- It’s okay to make mistakes or feel sad. What matters is that we get back up and keep trying.
- “Healing yourself is connected with healing others.” — Yoko Ono
- When we take care of our own hearts, we can also help others feel better too.
- “Time doesn’t heal emotional pain, you need to learn how to let go.” — Roy T. Bennett
- Healing isn’t just about waiting for time to pass. We need to learn how to let go of the hurt.
- “Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.” — Hippocrates
- Sometimes, we need to find the right people or activities to help us heal.
- “The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.”
- Deep down, we know what we need to feel better. We just need to listen to our hearts.
- “Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” — Helen Keller
- Even though there’s sadness in the world, there’s also a lot of hope and happiness.
- “You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.” — Rumi
- Sometimes, we need to experience sadness to truly understand and appreciate love and joy.
- “The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.” — Marianne Williamson
- Forgiving others, and ourselves, is a big part of healing.
- “Tears are words the heart can’t express.”
- Crying can be a way for our hearts to release sadness and start to heal.
- “Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”
- Even though we might always remember the hurt, we can learn to live without it controlling us.
- “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” — Oprah Winfrey
- The tough times we go through can teach us valuable lessons and make us stronger.
- “Healing is an art. It takes time, it takes practice. It takes love.” — Maza Dohta
- Just like learning to draw or play an instrument, healing takes patience and effort. But with love and support, we can do it!
Quotes About Finding Strength
Even when things get tough, you have a superhero inside you, just waiting to come out! Finding strength is like discovering your own special power. Here are some quotes to remind you how strong and brave you truly are:
“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – Nelson Mandela
- This means that it’s okay to make mistakes or face challenges. What makes us strong is getting back up and trying again.
- “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. Milne (Winnie the Pooh)
- This reminds us that we have hidden powers inside of us, even when we don’t feel confident.
- “Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.” – Rikki Rogers
- True strength comes from facing our fears and doing things we didn’t think were possible.
- “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene
- This means that we can find joy and strength even in difficult times.
- “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” – Bob Marley
- Sometimes, challenges force us to discover just how much strength we have inside.
- “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.'” – Mary Anne Radmacher
- Being brave doesn’t always mean being loud or fearless. Sometimes it’s about quietly trying again, even when we’re scared.
- “The strongest people aren’t always the people who win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.” – Ashley Hodgeson
- True strength is about never giving up, even when things don’t go our way.
- “The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” – Jimmy Johnson
- Sometimes, all it takes is a little extra effort to achieve something amazing.
- “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.” – Mahatma Gandhi
- Our determination and willpower are more powerful than our physical strength.
- “Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.” – C.S. Lewis
- The challenges we face can help us become the best versions of ourselves.
- “A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.” – Christopher Reeve
- We all have the potential to be heroes by facing our challenges with courage and determination.
- “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'” – Eleanor Roosevelt
- Overcoming our fears makes us stronger and more prepared for future challenges.
- “The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it.” – C.C. Scott
- No matter what we go through, our spirit can always find a way to heal and grow.
- “Tough times never last, but tough people do.” – Robert H. Schuller
- We can overcome any difficulty with resilience and perseverance.
- “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius
- We can control our thoughts and reactions, even when things around us feel out of control.
Quotes About Creating Your Own Happiness
Imagine happiness is like a beautiful rainbow after a rainy day. You can’t control the rain, but you can choose to look for the rainbow! Happiness comes from inside us, and we have the power to create it. Here are some quotes to remind you that you can choose your own sunshine:
- “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama
- This means that happiness isn’t something you just find lying around. You have to make it yourself by doing things that make you feel good.
- “The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” – Dalai Lama
- Being happy is important! It’s what we should all strive for.
- “Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone else that much power over your life.” – Mandy Hale
- Don’t let other people decide if you’re happy or not. You’re in charge of your own happiness!
- “Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne
- Sometimes, chasing after happiness can make it harder to find. But if you relax and focus on the good things around you, happiness might just find you.
- “Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” – Steve Maraboli
- Everyone has problems sometimes. But being happy means learning how to handle those problems and still find joy in life.
- “The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.” – Audrey Hepburn
- Having fun and enjoying life is what’s truly important.
- “Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.” – Mandy Hale
- Sometimes, things don’t go according to plan. But we can still find happiness by appreciating what we have.
- “Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not.” – Valerie Bertinelli
- Even when things are stressful, we can still choose to focus on the positive and find happiness.
- “Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” – Omar Khayyam
- Every moment is precious. Enjoy the little things and find happiness in the present.
- “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi
- When our thoughts, words, and actions match up, we feel good about ourselves and that brings happiness.
- “The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go.” – Dodinsky
- We can’t control everything that happens, but we can choose how we react and what we focus on.
- “Happiness depends upon ourselves.” – Aristotle
- We are responsible for our own happiness. It’s up to us to make choices that bring us joy.
- “The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.” – Mark Twain
- Helping others can make us feel good too.
- “Happiness is not a goal…it’s a by-product of a life well-lived.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
- When we live our lives with purpose and kindness, happiness naturally follows.
- “Happiness is a warm puppy.” – Charles M. Schulz
- Sometimes, the simplest things in life can bring us the most joy.
Quotes About Finding Support
Imagine you’re carrying a heavy backpack. It’s much easier when you have a friend to help you carry it, right? Finding support is like having friends share the load, making life’s journey a little bit easier. Here are some quotes to remind you that you don’t have to go through tough times alone:
- “No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” – Charles Dickens
- This means that even small acts of kindness can make a big difference in someone’s life.
- “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” – Elbert Hubbard
- True friends love and accept us, even with all our quirks and flaws.
- “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller
- The most important things in life, like love and friendship, can’t be seen, but we can feel them in our hearts.
- “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'” – C.S. Lewis
- Finding someone who understands us can make us feel less alone and more connected.
- “A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.” – Bernard Meltzer
- True friends accept us, even with our imperfections.
- “The only way to have a friend is to be one.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
- To find good friends, we need to be a good friend too.
- “Friends are the sunshine of life.” – John Hay
- Friends bring warmth and happiness into our lives, just like the sun brightens up a cloudy day.
- “A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” – Proverbs 27:9
- Spending time with good friends makes us feel good inside.
- “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey
- Choose friends who encourage and support you, not those who bring you down.
- “No man is an island.” – John Donne
- We all need other people in our lives. We’re not meant to be alone.
- “A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.” – Douglas Pagels
- Being a good friend is just as important as having good friends.
- “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” – Oprah Winfrey
- True friends stick with us even when things get tough.
- “True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable.” – David Tyson Gentry
- Sometimes, just being with a friend, even without talking, can be comforting.
- “There’s nothing like a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Nothing.” – Jennifer Aniston
- Having a friend we can always count on is a precious gift.
- “If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere.” – Zig Ziglar
- The best way to find good friends is to be a good friend yourself.
Conclusion
Remember, even when things feel dark and stormy, you have the power to find your own sunshine.
You are brave, you are strong, and you are loved. These quotes are like little lights to guide you on your journey.
Keep them close to your heart, and whenever you need a reminder, read them again.
You are not alone. There are people who care about you and want to help.
Don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to someone you trust – a friend, a teacher, a family member, or even a counselor.
Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Healing takes time, but with every step you take, you’re getting closer to a brighter and happier future.
Keep believing in yourself and your ability to create your own happiness. You’ve got this!
FAQs
1. What if my parents don’t change?
Sometimes, even if we try our best, our parents might not change their behavior.
It’s important to remember that you can’t control how they act, but you can control how you react.
Keep setting boundaries, find support from other adults you trust, and focus on taking care of yourself.
2. How can I talk to someone about how I feel?
Talking about your feelings can be scary, but it’s also really helpful.
Find a trusted adult, like a teacher, counselor, relative, or friend’s parent, and tell them how you’re feeling.
They can listen, offer advice, and help you feel less alone.
3. Is it okay to feel angry or sad?
Absolutely! It’s perfectly normal to feel a whole bunch of emotions when dealing with difficult situations at home.
It’s okay to feel angry, sad, confused, or even scared. Just remember, those feelings won’t last forever.
4. What if I don’t feel strong enough?
Everyone has moments when they feel weak or overwhelmed. That’s okay! It doesn’t mean you’re not strong.
Remember the quotes about finding your inner superhero.
You have more strength than you know, and you can always ask for help when you need it.
5. Where can I find more help?
If you need someone to talk to, there are lots of people who want to help.
You can talk to a trusted adult, call a helpline, or even look for online resources for kids dealing with difficult family situations.
Remember, you’re not alone, and there’s always support available.